Discovering What Really Works

Discovering What Really Works



“Be all you can be” used to be the popular advice before the dawn of the new millennium. However, new times call for new advice. People nowadays aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.


Problems and realities confront many of us. These make it difficult for us to think hard of anything else when there are real issues that are waiting for our immediate attention.


However, these problems should not even bother or hinder us to become all we ought to be. Our aspirations should continue to live within us and continue to hold on to the dream.


We all aspire to BE THE BEST THAT WE CAN BE. Here are some questions to guide us in preparing ourselves for self-improvement.


  • What do I really want?

We want to achieve many goals, have many things, and accomplish many things with our life and yet, we have little time to go about during the day.


We must discover the areas where we really excel. No matter how small these things are, these will support you towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.


  • Should I really change?

The younger generation is bringing the definition of “self” to a higher level. At least that is what I learned after dealing with my teenage nieces and nephews. For them, there are far worse things than acne or crushes. Surprising, isn’t it?


Incidences in our lives have taught us many lessons. These lessons are valuable guides in determining the areas in our lives that need to change. Look at recurring incidences in our lives as these leave clues as to what we need to learn in life.


  • What is the bright side in all of this?

Napoleon Hill writes that we can view adversities in a positive light by looking at the “seed of equivalent benefit”.


There are two sides of a coin – positive and negative. This is always the case. Our task is to search for the positive side in every adversity. Believe me, you will always one.


  • Am I expanding my reality?

There is always the easy way and right way. Many of us prefer the easy way as it is within our very own comfort zone.


Straying beyond the comfort zone provides stress. This is the reason why we retreat back to our safe cocoon never to venture out again. Sometimes, in order to grow, we need to feel discomfort. The challenge is keep on growing and expanding to reach our fullest potential.


  • Have I done enough for myself?

Is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect of life can be dangerous. However, discontent within realistic parameters can help you see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.


  • Am I happy at where I am today?

Aristotle declared, “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” We all want to be happy.


Applying this in real life, we love being good and loving to our kids, and then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!


  • How much could I have?

I suppose in this case it is not a case of desiring too much or too little, but it is how badly you really need it. I would really like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is this: how much are you willing to work for it?


  • What motivates me?

This we have to find out for ourselves. There are many things that can make everyone happy; but to choose one of them may be the hardest part. It is not as if you cannot have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that is the end of it. Just try each one. From there, we can make intelligent decisions about what works well with us.


We can be just about anything we always wanted to be. Most often, we give up just with the mere thought of attaining something that may seem very difficult.


Always remember, self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change within us. It has to start with a burning desire for change and become the best that we can be.