Finding a Safe Haven Leads to Self Improvement

Finding a Safe Haven Leads to Self-Improvement



The merger of emotional and mental aspects of a person can lead to self-improvement.


Emotions dominate your actions and reactions, though you do not want it to happen oftentimes. Society equates emotions with weakness, so people are used to putting feelings aside and focus on the rational aspects.


No matter how strict and logical you may be, you still and will express emotions.


Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of you as it relates to emotional, health, and self-improvement.


Ask yourself: What is more important the amount of money you made during your life or the number of times you laughed out of sheer joy?


People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives.


There is no clear way on to ignore a negative experience and replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.


For example, when you were a child and your goldfish died, you were heartbroken. Your parents probably bought you another goldfish but the sorrow remained.  


Things got even more complex when you became an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before affected your entire day. You went to work angry and tired. On the way home from work, you did not notice the sun shining and you were not inclined to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables.


All this because of that one negative thought, which has contaminated the way you perceived the reality around you.


In times like this, finding a safe place or haven to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement. That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location.  


Let us say you have something that is bugging you and it just would not go away. Go bowling. Do not know how? Just give it a shot.


Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.


A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a song, movie, person or pet. The main thing is to allow your self to get completely involved with this new activity.


You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore them and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.


The end of the bowling game, song, or movie abruptly returns to reality. In this case, you will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. Do not do it.


The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life's problems. It serves only as an escape route.


You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved.


This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and experience a better you!