Have A Shy Child Teach Him or Her to Be More Upfront

Have A Shy Child? Teach Him or Her to Be More Upfront



There are children that are naturally more outgoing than others. As a parent, you should understand that shyness or inhibition is driven by both genetic and environmental factors.


However, this temperament isn't necessarily permanent and does not always determine a child's personality when he or she grows up. In fact, these traits can be influenced by time and life experiences -- a timid person may overcome his shyness, while a confident person might become withdrawn.


There are many ways to help a child overcome shyness. But, first, you have to look into the reason why your child is too shy for his or her age. Go back to your earliest recollection of your childhood. Were you and your partner shy when you were at that age? Are either of you shy up to now? Remember that you are your child's social model.


Your responses and interaction with other people are your child's first social template. Model social phrases for common situations, like greeting a person "Good morning!" or "How are you today?", asking permission ("May I help you with that?"), or introducing oneself ("Hello, I'm __. How do you do?") are great starters.


Meaningful and fun interaction with siblings is also necessary. Observe the quality of interaction they have and make sure the older ones do not overshadow the younger kids. You can also arrange play dates or have a friend who has a child over to play with yours. Take time out to bring your child to a place where he or she can meet with kids of the same age.


Healthy social development is central in early childhood. If you feel you've exhausted all means to draw your child out and he or she still stays withdrawn, do not be afraid to seek professional help. Shyness can sometimes turn out to be a manifestation of behavioral difficulty.


Some kids are naturally shy and sensitive, and may need more time to adjust to their surroundings and with new faces. Give them that time. Don't force them to interact if they're not ready as it increases the risk of them being more scared of people in the long run. Introducing your child to the people around him or her is a good start, and will make him or her comfortable and safe. But let the first move truly come from him or her and let it happen naturally.