Healthy Fear to Freedom
John grew up to be a fine young man because he was taught early in life to submit to his parents. He feared his parents but also enjoyed being very close to them.
John learned the value of submission. He was disciplined to live within the healthy truth perception of his parents — knowing that his parents lived exemplary lives together. In this way, he developed a healthy fear of his parents — a positive fear born out of respect.
Now let’s take a look at Jerry. His parents lived chaotic lives, always in sharp disagreement and petty quarrels. His mother did not submit to his father, and they often went separate ways. Jerry terribly feared his parents, especially his dad. He feared him not out of respect, but out of anxiety. He worried that his parents might separate and finally abandon him.
John feared his parents but Jerry was afraid of his parents. John feared his parents to please them, but Jerry worried about losing out terribly in the end. John accepted discipline from his parents, but Jerry saw discipline or obedience as a way that might delay the impending separation of his parents. John’s life was simple; Jerry’s life was complicated.
We want the healthy fear of John. This fear leads to true freedom. This fear leads to a quiet life with little worries and uncertainties, if any. It orders your life to propriety, and this is what you want to pass to your descendants. Hence, this fear frees you and the generations after you.
Healthy fears are within you to serve you. They give you warning, discipline, and self-control. They work for you. They do not control you; quite the contrary, you manage them to suit your goals. You use them for your freedom.
When fears control you, your worst nightmare begins. You lose your freedom.