How to Stop the Bad Habit of Lying

How to Stop the Bad Habit of Lying



Everybody lies; there is no doubt about that. However, there lies a difference between chronic lying and lying necessitated by circumstance. For example, you might forgive a person for saying he or she has Spanish roots when it really isn't true. You can simply conclude that this person must be wanting so bad to become Castillian. It might even be funny, eventually. However, you are likely to be more angry if the person would not admit to a minor thing like breaking a vase and then make a big deal out of it by telling more untruths and throwing a fit.


If you find yourself lying to your friends and family even about the smallest of things, perhaps it's time to break this bad habit. A white lie is fine sometimes, but if nothing comes out of your mouth but untruths, you need a reality check and a major attitude overhaul. Lying has never benefited anybody in the long run, no matter what the intentions are.


So you want to stop lying? First, you have to accept that you have, indeed, lied; for how can you stop when you don't think you did anything wrong in the first place? Being in a denial phase only makes the problem worse and feeds the bad attitudes that you have. It is always best to be accountable for whatever you say or do because even if you're just mimicking somebody, it becomes your responsibility the moment the lie comes out of your mouth.


Second, be aware of the past lies you made and the reasons that drove you to say them. More often than not, you will find that insecurity is the main reason. Thus, you will need to be positive about yourself so that you'll halt feeling inferior and stop making up stories in an attempt to elevate yourself to others.


Third, know what your strengths and weaknesses are and then focus on your good traits. Nothing beneficial ever comes out of self-pity. Again, if you're happy with who you are, the less likely you will be to tell lies. Accept the fact that we all make mistakes and that nobody is perfect. As much as you want to cover up your follies, they will only become a bigger burden if you pad them with tall tales.


Finally, acknowledge that life is full of risks and that without them you won't be able to learn anything and grow into a more mature individual. Part of these risks is telling the truth. As the saying goes, the truth will set you free. You might think that you are going to get yourself in trouble for telling it like it is, but you'll actually be setting yourself up for greater headaches if you don't.


Of course, there exists a thin line between being truthful and being tactless. Telling the truth does not entail being insensitive of other people's feelings. We live in a societal setting and are bound by its rules. This means, in order to properly co-exist with others, you should know how to weigh your words before saying them. Think before you speak. And if you can't say anything good at all, don't say anything or simply say 'no comment'.