Most Feared Word

The Most Feared Word In The English Language



What do you think is the most feared word in the English language?  The word is – NO.


Negative responses form part of the journey in pursuit of our goals. Anticipating this, we prepare alternate ways or means to stave off obstacles that may hinder our plans for success.


The obstacle is most frequently represented by the word “no.” When we encounter a “no” for a request, how do we react? Do we take it with a positive attitude?


Taking a “no” with a positive attitude means accepting the negative response without pouting, resentment, anger, or irritation. It also means keeping our focus on goals and strengthening the resolve and intention to succeed.


Just how do you take something negative positively? This can be achieved by incorporating the Law of Averages which is a lay term used to express the view that everything evens out eventually. This leads to a better understanding of the reality that the road to success is not always smooth sailing.  Part of this is accepting the fact that in goal attainment, we need to learn how to handle “no” responses.  


Here are some ideas on how to handle a negative answer:


Find out how effective we are in making the request or command. This can be achieved by practicing and approaching many people. The more people we ask, the more chances we have in getting a “yes” response. This is where the Law of Averages comes into effect.


Depending on what we ask and whom we ask, examine the different approaches used and their corresponding levels of effectiveness in getting the desired response.  


A batting average of zero signals the need to reconfigure our method of asking or making requests.  Extra effort has to be done to make us more convincing and improve our batting average.  It all depends on what we ask for and how effectively we ask for it. It also depends on the people we approach for the request, specifically if they are indeed the right ones to approach.


Keep in mind that there are people who always respond affirmatively to requests.  By nature, these people are helpful. It is possible that these people are conditioned to give a “yes” response since childhood.  


Create a win-win situation.  To get a “yes,” consider the request itself. It should be reasonable and must be done in a courteous manner. Make it known to them how the request will help in the attainment of their objectives, as well as ours. They will be more than willing to help because it makes them feel important and significant. They will see the benefits they will derive out of helping us.  


Just got a rejection? Relax!  It is not the end of the world!


We can still turn it into a “yes” by giving assurance, guarantee, and proof of sincerity. Present proof or evidence to beef up the claim and turn it in our favor.  As much as possible, give them ample time to think things over. Never pressure people to decide in our favor. People have a tendency to reject the request once they feel pressure being put on them.


We must overcome our fear for rejection. One thing is for sure - it is possible to turn a negative response into our favor if our request is reasonable and beneficial to other people.